Discerning the Whisper

The greatest glory we can give to God is to do his will in everything. – Saint Alphonsus Ligouri

Newly married and starting fresh is a struggle on its own.  In addition to this, lets add living in a new city, learning a new way of life that is filled with its own ups and downs, and learning how to love and live in a way you never have before. My life these past few months has been filled with change and I am trying to move forward as a married woman. However, all too often, I find myself asking ” What does God want me to do now?”  I think we can all relate to asking ourselves this very question and spending hours of our lives just trying to come to grips with an answer.

Quite often, the people around us are the ones we want to please most. We want our family and friends to be proud of us. We also want to make ourselves happy with the decisions we have made along the way.   There are lots of different opinions you may gather on who you should be, what you should do, and the ‘right way’ to do things. It can lead to some pretty rough internal turmoil, especially when you want to please everyone around you and also make yourself happy.

But do we pause and take a moment to ask ourselves: What would be most pleasing to God?

Trying to hear a solid answer is hard. We are hesitant and we make excuses for ourselves to try to run from the path that looks too demanding. We are faced with decisions in our career, our vocation, our friendships, and our family. Sometimes we just don’t really feel motivation to pray for help or to just listen.

Time and time again, I think of how Mary and Joseph imitate this submission and humility to the will of God. We can all recall Mary’s great “I do” to the will of God when she accepted the role of mother to the Messiah. Fatherhood was thrust upon Joseph practically overnight just as he had decided to dismiss Mary after he had found out she was pregnant. The angel came to him and told him to not be afraid and to take Mary as his wife. He show great courage in doing that, but also in fleeing to Egypt and keeping them safe there to protect Christ from Herod.

We can learn by their example that the calling for us will be great. It might be hard, and it might be nothing like we could have ever dreamed of.  God wants the very best for us. Ultimately, He wants us to be holy, happy, and to be with Him for all eternity. If we truly want to achieve what will be ultimately good for our souls then we must seek to have souls that are in tune to the will of God . In Uniformity with Gods Will, St. Alphonsus says ” Those who love God are always happy, because their whole happiness is to fulfil, even in adversity, the will of God.”


The other day at mass, I prayed to God so that I would know his will, and that he would give me the strength I would need. I had been frustrated, scared, and tired of waiting for a response that was direct obvious. In prayer, I said ” God, I want what you want for me. I know what I desire in my heart, but is it what You want for me? Over and over again, I heard Him in my heart say:

” My Child, why do you worry? Trust me, and do not be afraid.”

Now there was a great wind, so strong that it was splitting mountains and breaking rocks in pieces before the Lord, but the Lord was not in the wind; and after the wind an earthquake, but the Lord was not in the earthquake;  and after the earthquake a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire; and after the fire a sound of sheer silence.  When Elijah heard it, he wrapped his face in his mantle and went out and stood at the entrance of the cave.  1 Kings 19: 11-13

It can be hard to hear that voice of God sometimes. We truly need to quiet our hearts. Like children, we ask ” Are were there yet?” and “Why?” and “Where are we going?” But we must learn to be patient and to listen. We must unceasingly pray. Frequently go to confession. Go to adoration. Be with Him and listen to Him. Rest your heart in the hands of Christ. Ask of Him everyday that the will of God be done. Be ready to lay down your life for the sake of His will.

God provides for every living thing, and he will provide for us too ( Matthew 6:26). Offer to Him all your suffering and rejoice in it, for it is in redemptive suffering we are able to give our lives to God.

Catholic Ruki

Below are some resources that may aid you in discernment.



According to Saint Ignatius, we must be aware of how the spirit moves within our hearts when we reflect on the choices before us. Check this article for more information on Ignatian Spirituality and how it can help us discern the will of God.



About catholicruki

Married. Mother. Catholic.

Posted on September 1, 2014, in Apologetics, Catholic, Christian, Christian Life, Confession, discernment, faith, family, knowledge, Love, prayer, Redemptive Suffering, Saints, silence, uniformity, Virtue, Vocations and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 4 Comments.

  1. You mentioned, “hearing the voice of God sometimes.” Sometimes He makes you wait awhile. I was discerning my career some 18-24 mos ago and was really wondering what I should do. I spent a lot of time searching within on what would be a good fit for me, etc. I got back “crickets.” That is until our most recent baby was born late last year. He needed to have several heart surgeries. My current employer has excellent insurance. That would not have been the case on my own as an entrepreneur just starting or at many other companies. So, I am glad I did not leave!
    To further add to the goodness, earlier this year I was handed back a job I really loved several years ago. It was almost too easily done in a large corporation. Definitely the hand of God was involved here!

    • Hi Marc!
      Thank you for reading!
      I can certainly relate to God making me wait. He truly does try to teach us patience. We are so impatient sometimes, but we really do need to be able to breath and accept Gods timing. Your story is a great testimony to Gods nature as Father, taking care of you and your family. All the best to you all and thank you again for stopping by!

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