A Response to Liz Braun’s article “Bieber’s mom enters movie biz with anti-abortion flick”
“The abortion of unborn human beings is the chief symptom of a fundamentally sick society ” – Abolish Human Abortion.
This week, from May 12-19, 2013, we are celebrating “Respect Life Week.” In the spirit of this, I wanted to share my response about an article which was in the newspaper on January 23, 2013. When I checked the mailbox that morning, I found a copy of the St. Thomas Times-Journal. As I flipped trough it, I came across an article by Liz Braun of the QMI Agency, titled, “Bieber’s mom enters movie biz with anti-abortion flick.” Above the title, the tag line read “Mallette misses opportunity to promote birth control.”
I had been hearing about Pattie Mallette creating a pro-life movie, Crescendo, but never would I have thought it would be discussed in the local newspapers. However, she is the mother of the arguably most popular pop singer in Canada (Justin Bieber), so it would only make sense for this to be the case.
As I read the article, my jaw dropped at what Braun was saying about Mallette. Here we have Mallette, who in her own time of need felt pressured to kill her child, yet took responsibility for her actions and loved her baby despite what it may have meant for her to carry him to term. It could have meant alienation from her family, or loss of support from friends and family. It could have meant having no way to support her son. It could have meant even giving him up for adoption and subsequently parting from her child to ensure he was properly cared for, even though that also would have been very difficult. So many people choose abortion because they feel they have no where to turn, or are too ashamed to turn to anyone. Mallette was able, with the help and support of her family, to care for and raise her son. She saw the value in his life, even though it meant difficulty and possibly even a marred reputation of what people might say about her and having a child at such a young age. What she did was brave and took a lot of courage. It took a lot of love.
In Canada, there is no law against abortion. None. Until a child is fully emerged from the birth canal, alive, they are not considered human beings in Canada. There is something gravely wrong with this.
Ms. Braun, in her article, said “we sincerely doubt that there are safe places for unwed pregnant women all over the world, just like Mallette, to take shelter everywhere in the world – stoning, anyone? – but never mind that.” She is wrong. Truth be told, there are places, even in Canada, such as Fresh Start Maternity Supports, and Saint Monica House that have been created to help women who face unplanned pregnancies, or need some help. They offer a place to stay, an OB or midwife for pre-natal care, etc, or even just support and help for women who need assistance with life skills, obtaining clothing or baby supplies. We definitely need more of these, even though they do exist. This is what Mallette is trying to accomplish.
Braun suggested that they missed an opportunity here to promote birth control, saying that “supporting an anti-abortion movie or homes for unwed mothers is kind of like shutting the barn door after the horse has already bolted.” She also dares to compare choosing between having an abortion or having a child you don’t want and are unable to support to choosing between losing a finger or thumb.
To compare the two is absurd. A finger and thumb are part of your body and the loss of either one will not end your life. It will inconvenience you, though, and be painful, but you will heal from it. On the other hand, in choosing between abortion and carrying a child to term, you are choosing to kill a person or allowing that person to live. Statistics and personal stories prove the immense regret felt by those choosing to abort their own child. You do not see people going though shame over losing their finger. Mothers who commit abortion a lot of times deal with shame. This type of shame can only be truly healed by the love and mercy of God, if they allow Him to.
With regards to birth control, Pope Paul VI predicted in 1968 in his encyclical Humanae Vitae, that “a man who grows accustomed to the use of contraceptive methods may forget the reverence due to a woman.” By “disregarding her physical and emotional equilibrium, man would eventually view woman as a being who doesn’t deserve care and affection.”
With the introduction of birth control, which was meant to lower unintended pregnancies, all that it did was cause them to rise, rapidly and steadily. Statistics have proven this point. The use of birth control often results in this users thinking that they are safe from pregnancy. This has led to increasing numbers of people having sex more frequently, due to the fact that they think it is without consequence. The pill is actually not as affective as they make it out to be, and so when an unplanned pregnancy occurs, abortion is the back-up method of birth control.
Braun mentions that mother’s between the ages of 13 and 21 are the ones who use these services, and though this may be true, this is not simply due to a “lack of use of excellent birth control.” Birth control is not 100% effective. A proper understanding of human sexuality and abstinence is effective. Women and young girls are not becoming pregnant due to lack of good birth control. They are becoming pregnant by having sex.
If we end the abortion and artificial birth control methods, people will have to become responsible for their actions. For those who still find themselves pregnant, they too will have to deal with their actions, but it should never, ever go without support and care. They need our love and our help. They do not need the tiny human being within them to be ripped apart, and then left to deal with the resulting guilt and grief for the rest of their life. They do not need to be handed more pills or given another depo shot, with a “be more careful next time, and pick a better condom.” They need our love. They need our help. They need a real assistance, not a band-aid solution.
Many people like to use the idea of rape as a major reason for abortion. Though there are very rare circumstances where rape may occur and result in pregnancy (statistically about 1%), the fact is that majority of pregnancies do not occur this way. Our culture has become one of such self-gratification, with little to no respect for life or the family, that there are now many unintended pregnancies, and thus, because of many varying reasons, people run to the abortion mill down the street,their local abortion doctor, or to Plan B. The truth is, artificial birth control has not helped our society.
It can be very scary to find out that you are pregnant. These women and young girls need people in their lives like you and I to be by their side; to assure them that things will be okay, they will get through this, and to be assured that we will help them every step of the way. If all families began to properly teach their children a real respect for life, then things would change. Catholic families in particular are commissioned for this task. Though unintended pregnancies will always happen, we as the local Church need to have the proper resources in place to help women when the need arises.
Mallette is doing the right thing in making this movie and promoting a proper solution to help women who are facing unplanned pregnancies. Mallette stated that she wanted her move to “encourage young women all over the world, just like me, to let them know that there is a place to go, people who will take care of you and a safe home to live in if you are pregnant and think you have nowhere else to turn.” We in turn really need to support her and the women, and even the men, in our communities who need our help. Please consider and pray about how you can help people in your community who are dealing with unplanned pregnancies.