Courting and Date Ideas
‘Dating’, or whatever you want to call it, is one of those life experiences that has changed over the decades. These days, dating is often seen as a place where it’s all fun and games, where it’s filled with passion and risks, where relationships can be abandoned if they aren’t our cup of tea or in some cases hold us back from everything we used to or want to be.
If you wanted to get to know someone in a greater relationship, it was for the sake of seeing if you two could discern your vocation with one another. In other words, seeing if you guys could be married. Back in the day this was better known as courting. It makes so much more sense though, doesn’t it? If you’re called to the vocation of marriage, then doesn’t it make more sense to seek out the person God wants for you to discern marriage with? I wouldn’t want to spend years of my life unsure about someone, staying in a relationship because it’s become comfortable, or settling for that person because we ‘get along’.
Taking any relationship too lightly can result in it falling apart. Relationships are fragile, special, and to be taken care of. They are not to be used or used for our own gratification, rather they should be based on self-sacrifice and love. In summary, if we are called to the vocation of marriage, we should seek out the individual that will become our future spouse right from the very beginning. You want to be able to help them live a holier life, and get to Heaven.
So, That being said, I thought I would make up a list of ideas of date ideas! They are in no particular order. So, here I go!
- Holy Hour: Chris and Julie can probably attest to this idea. Where better to discern your vocation than before the Eucharist? Go to Mass and Confession if you can, too!
- Pray together: So it’s a friday night. You’ve been fasting. How about the two of you pray the rosary together? Or maybe you will say the Divine Mercy. Praying together as a couple is extremely important. It’s important to be able to pray alone, and this is encouraged as Jesus told us to pray in this manner (Matthew 6:6). It’s important to give your relationships to Christ so that He may do with them what He sees fit.
- Go to a Christian Concert: There are loads of shows all over. Look up concert listings and try to find a Christian band to go watch. Maybe it’s a new band you have never heard of, but it might be fun! Here are some of my recommendations: Copeland, Starfield, Hillsong, Anberlin, and Sent by Ravens.
- Other Music Shows: Okay so maybe your girlfriend isn’t a huge fan of MeWithoutYou or Demon Hunter. Maybe you need to scale it down and find something a little more soft. Lots of venues have shows with music that’s a little easier on the ears. Maybe look up the local music hall and see if the university students are showing their skills in a choir, or are simply having a talent show. These shows are relatively cheap, too.
- Take a walk: Probably one of the simplest ideas out there. However, walking is a great way to spend a day. Whether it’s just around the city, around the block, or on a nature trail, it’s a great way to just talk and observe the world around you. It’s also great exercise!
- Volunteer: Jesus said in Matthew 25 :“Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’
“Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’
“The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’
Charity! Pure and Simple! Soup kitchens, nursing homes, St.Vincent de Paul. All these places love to have volunteers. Maybe it’s time to stop by the nursing home and see Grandma. Or maybe you guys are musical and you can do a little duet. Maybe you want to help out at the food bank or the soup kitchen downtown. It’s a free date, and it makes a difference in the community.
- Book Study: You may have to invest some money in buying some books, but check out your local library first. Basically you both read a book, and at the end of every chapter, or at the end of the book, you sit down and talk about it. I recommend setting a limit to how much you read so you can discuss it in smaller portions and take your time in the discussion as well. Compare notes and talk about what you learned or thought was cool! Some ideas of books to read:
– The Love that Satisfies by Christopher West
– Captivating and/or Wild at Heart – John and Stasi Eldredge
– The Bible (This could take a while, but there are lots of Bible study resources online.)
– Anything by G.K. Chesterton. I’ve read three of his books, and they are fantastic reads. He’s truly a master of paradox, and though it’s old, it’s definitely not outdated.
More of our book ideas can be found here.
- Dinner out: It doesn’t have to be fancy. Hit up the local grill, or even just a Tim Hortons. Special occasions may call for stepping it up a little, but treating your significant other out to a nice night is always a treat.
- Dinner in! Time to become Master Chefs! it’s a great way of having fun and trying out new recipes. If that fails, well it might be time to call up Dominoes or Kings Buffet and just order in.
- Bowling: Inexpensive and fun. It’s fun if it’s just the two of you, but maybe you guys can invite some friends and have two teams playing!
- Ice cream: I think all my friends know that I absolutely LOVE ice cream! You can walk around outside with it, or just sit and chat at a table and enjoy each others company. So hit up DQ or Marble Slab! If you’re looking to save money, check out the newspapers and Facebook pages of those sites and you can look for coupons and such.
- Game time: So as many of our readers may or may not know, Team Orthodoxy is FILLED with nerds. Seriously. When we all hang out, we’re usually playing Halo or something. If you own a gaming system, find a two player game. If you’re not into shooters, play some Mario Kart. Feeling active? Play Wii Sports. Feeling Musical? Pull out the Rock band or Guitar Hero.
- Board Games: These may be harder to find two player games that are a little more interesting than chess or checkers. Jenga, scrabble, battleship, connect 4, or a puzzle are textbook games that i’m sure many people have stored away somewhere. Recently, I started playing Settlers of Catan. It’s a little more expensive and you need an expansion if you want to play two players, but it’s a great group game. Invite another couple or maybe let the younger brother or sister play and it’s great.
- Take a class: Some parishes offer classes on the Catechism, history, and rosary making, or Bible Study. Check out your local parish and see if there are classes being offered. Also, if you’d like to do other things, grocery stores and community centers often have cooking classes or other hobby classes. Try something different, and don’t forget to have fun.
- Photo day! You basically have two options. You can buy a disposable camera, which would make the outcome perhaps more surprising, or you can limit yourselves to a certain number of photos on a digital camera, and print them elsewhere. Basically, spend the whole day taking pictures around town.
- Movie Marathon: Lord of the Rings. Back to the Future. Star Wars. Make a boatload of popcorn, grab some hot chocolate or some pop, and just hang out in front of the tube and watch some timeless classics! This is a great option for a rainy day.
- Stargazing: During the summer months, nothing beats just chilling in the backyard and watching the stars.
- Bonfire: If you have a fire pit, get a fire going and you won’t get cold. Maybe roast some marshmallows and have smores! This is a great idea for inviting a bunch of friends and sharing funny stories.
- Dinner with the parents: I encourage this! Showing that you care about your significant others family is huge. This may shock many of you : They may be your family one day too! So you should probably get to know them, and love them as you would love your own family, with its ups and downs.
- Theme Park: Every year, there are fairs and amusement parks open. If they bigger attractions are a little too expensive or they are hard together, look around and see if there are county fairs. You can often find cool things there, not to mention delicious food!
Well, those are my ideas! I encourage you all to pray for all vocations. Pray for guidance and patience. Above all things, seek Christ. Keep one another from sin. Help one another to get to Christ. Help them get to Heaven in every way you can. As the saying often goes, You cannot be someone’s soul-mate unless you car for their soul.
Please check out some other Team Orthodoxy Links concerning topics related to courting and marriage
The Great Sexual Persecution
Lust: Not just a Guy Thing
Web Find Wednesday: 1-Flesh.org
Marriage as a Primordial Sacrament
In Pursuit of Chastity
Posted on September 17, 2012, in Beauty, Catholic, chastity, family, Heaven, Love, lust, marriage, modesty, morality and tagged Catholic, chastity, courting, date ideas, dating, heaven, life, love, lust, marriage, modesty, Vocation. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.