The Pill: A ‘No’ to True Love.

As a woman, I’m sure many would question why I am against the oral contraceptive. Often, many will say “How can you feel this way if you are a woman? You have the right to birth control”. Many people may say that it is a right to be able to have a birth control pill in order to keep from having children and that there are legitimate excuses for them to be necessary. Some of the excuses that women have for why the oral contraceptives are necessary are:

– Time is needed to become a better mother.

– Not ready to have children

– Do not want children

– Can’t afford children

– Need to space out pregnancies

Women who are sexually active embrace the pill. They don’t have to worry about getting pregnant (of course that is often their first worry rather than be afraid of the multiple deadly STIs that are floating around). They don’t have to worry about the responsibility of a child. She is mostly certain she is protected from the responsibilities of parenthood. The pill alters the woman’s body and tricks it. It prevents what should naturally occur (pregnancy). In truth, the oral contraceptive removes the most important and most precious aspect of the act: the openness to new life.

As stated in the Catechism of the Catholic Church, “The regulation of births represents one of the aspects of responsible fatherhood and motherhood. Legitimate intentions on the part of the spouses do not justify recourse to morally unacceptable means (for example, direct sterilization or contraception)” (CCC 2399). The pill is a wall. It allows man and woman to take part in intercourse, but the act is twisted to better suit the desires of the participants. It becomes more focused on the pleasure than about the creative power that God allows us to take part in. It becomes less about a true and full gift of self and more about a satisfaction. I am not saying that between the two persons involved in the act that there is no love. However, there is not a true fullness of love. There is not a fullness of true giving and true receiving, for that would mean that both are vulnerable to one another, and the possibility of creating life.

Many women take the pill while being sexually active outside of marriage, (which in itself is grand sin on its own, no matter who it is with). However, many use it within marriage as well. There is no true giving of self and of body, because the element of a possibility of life is blocked out. This goes against what the Church teaches, for it has always taught that “The matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of life, is by its nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring; this covenant between baptized persons has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament(CCC 1602)”. To many, the sexual act does involve a possibility of children, but we have the option to accept that or prevent it from happening. Intercourse’ primary purpose to many is something that is to express love and to be shared as something personal and to be done if you love the other person. But is there really a fullness of love if we turn away the love of God and his plan for us as Male and Female? I would like to present an excerpt from Blessed John Paul II’s Theology of the Body in response to this question: The Communion of the Holy Trinity is the source and criterion of truth in every relationship. An authentic conjugal spirituality calls spouses to open their body to this truth, to the inspiration of the Holy Spirit so that they might image and participate in the communion of the Holy Trinity. Insert contraception into this picture and we witness specific and determined closing off of the spouse’s flesh to the presence of the Holy Spirit – a closing off to “The Lord and Giver of Life.”

The spiritual wounding that the pill does in a woman may not be clear to those who use the contraceptive or support it. The fact that it takes away the most amazing and beautiful element of our lives and prevents it from happening is a saddening reality. Preventing a new life from entering into the world becomes a selfish choice of the participators of the sexual act and ignores God’s call to Holiness in Marital union and love. The true right that exists is the right to participate in the God Given Sacrament of Marriage, and to accept all the blessings that come with it.


Recommended Reads:

Theology of the Body

The Love That Satisfies by Christopher West

Catachism of the Catholic Church: 2331- 2400

Humane Vitae


About catholicruki

Married. Mother. Catholic.

Posted on December 1, 2011, in abortion, Catholic, chastity, child, contraception, faith, Love, marriage, mother, Orthodoxy, sex. Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.

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